Guide to Being the Groom
Congratulations, you’ve made it this far. You might be asking yourself, what do I do now? Being a groom is complex and we’re here to walk you through it.
Be present. Help plan the wedding! Grooms are more involved in wedding planning now than they’ve ever been. Contribute ideas, attend venue appointments and don’t procrastinate. If you need some ideas on where to start and what to do, check out these Traditional Groom Duties.
IDEA: Get a head start on the honeymoon planning and schedule an appointment with a travel agent. If you need a few location ideas, here are some of the top destinations for 2017.
Give constructive feedback. Don’t just say ‘no’ or ‘uh-huh’. Give real feedback. If you don’t like something, tell your partner why you don’t like it. Do the same if you really love something and want to make sure it’s part of the big day.
IDEA: Create a list of songs that are meaningful to the two of you. Give them to the DJ or band before the wedding so they can be incorporated into the playlist. And don’t forget to make a list of “DO NOT PLAYS” for them as well!
Take initiative. Don’t wait to be asked to do something. Take initiative on things that you know are your strong suit. It will show interest and let her know that you're willing to help!
IDEA: Rally your groomsmen and start planning your wedding day look. You can use our event dashboard to organize them and our visualizer to create different day-of looks. Trust us, she’ll be thrilled to cross that one off her to-do list!
Be supportive. No doubt wedding planning can be stressful. When your partner needs to vent, let them. Be empathetic. Don’t act like it’s not a big deal. A hug will go a lot further than an eye roll.
IDEA: Treat her to a spa day one month out from the wedding. By this point she’ll need a day to herself! Bonus points if you go too and get a men’s facial in preparation for the wedding. Real men take care of their skin.
Communicate well. Involve your families and help bridge the needs and desires of your partner, their family, and your family. It’s your job to play referee with your family, not hers. Make sure both your parents and your partner feel heard and that conflicts during wedding planning are dealt with maturely and promptly.
IDEA: Invite your parents and your future in-laws over for dinner early in the planning to discuss plans and ideas for the wedding. Determine who they would like to include on the guest list and any family traditions that might be included in the ceremony or reception. It’s better to take care of these early than to run into roadblocks of conflict later.
Enjoy the planning while it lasts and enjoy helping your future-spouse because your wedding day will fly bye. In the end remember, it's about the two of you and your future. Have fun and don’t forget champagne makes everything better. Cheers!